Saturday, December 17, 2016

nothin' like DOWNTOWN

Lobby ~ Palace Hotel

Pied Piper 

I met Marsha here in the lobby of the Palace Hotel and then we stopped
by the Pied Piper bar there to admire this famous painting by Maxfield
Parrish which was restored in 2013. Wow. We have a goal to visit the
hidden rooftop gardens in SF. Ten public spaces mandated by the
city and resented by the building owners. Just what I need during the
holidays ~ rekindled love for my city. I carried my chronny (10/3/16)
looking like a tourist from Ames, Iowa and we visited two of the
sites. The guard had to unlock the elevator in the first one. More
tomorrow ~ I want to do this up right for you and me.

Friday, December 16, 2016

as promised...

A few more photos of the Tiapos party. Note MY potatoes get center stage.



Thursday, December 15, 2016

every year ~ thankfully


Once again we gathered at Doug and Barb's ~ Tiapos in all its glory,
sarcasm,  cranky "God I hate Christmas" stuff and way too much
food. Lots of laughs, especially when Doug phoned Randy in NYC.
But hey, I'll send a few more photos and thoughts tomorrow. Yes,
it was great fun and yes, I am beyond lucky to have these people
in my life. We owe it all to Jane, may she RIP. Dear Jane.

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

go ahead ~ pin your hopes




My first trip back to either museum since I retired! It was an easy re-entry
yesterday out at the Legion of Honor and this particular exhibit of the
Madeline Albright pin collection is terrific. It is well categorized and
the displays are easy-to-read and there is so much history as well as
beauty to be enjoyed. So allow some time just to read and admire the
woman and her jewelry.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

their first night

Carlini's morning email yesterday was such a delight. I know,
I will write about other things soon, but we need warm hearts
on these cold mornings. Enjoy:

Good morning Stein.

No the little darling didn't hide, yes the little darling came into
the bedroom, yes the little darling got up on the bed ,yes the little 
darling slept there all night, yes the little darling acts like she's lived 
here for all of her life. Yes the little darling is still here with me as we 
read our morning email laying in bed and I'm thinking, what is up I've 
never had a cat just like this before.

Monday, December 12, 2016

we went shopping


Back to the SPCA yesterday to show Carlini each and every cat. We
always have a good inventory there. Here he is with Puma, a two year
old Calico who went back to Walnut Creek with him and they are
settling in together nicely. He is still grieving for Desi who died about
two months ago, but these two will eventually bond nicely.

Sunday, December 11, 2016

love and hominy




Husbando spent an entire day making his famous pozole last week
and last night was the gathering of friends to thank them for being
there (here) for us. It was pretty much a Trump-free evening as
we discussed horses, fire places, Feldenkrais at Kaiser, the Sweet
Shop in Japantown and our various families. Wonderful!

Saturday, December 10, 2016

my eyes have seen...



When I Googled this image just now Zenni was somehow listed under
"cheapism" which is a new word to me. Anyway, Husbando and I now
 order our eye glasses through Zenni (based in San Rafael) and we are
delighted with the product, service and price. It takes a little time to
measure and type in all the information from the eye exam, but the
prescription glasses always come in under $100 and we are pleased.
This is an official endorsement...

Friday, December 09, 2016

who knew?


I didn't take this photo, because I don't really want to be out in this rain.
It's good stay-at-home in front of the new fake fireplace kind of weather.
It's a real rain here in the Bay Area. Did the weather people predict this
back in July? I think not. Because of the four year draught we can't
really complain, but I am soooooo happy not to be driving to and from
those museums anymore. Or taking BART to downtown Borders, for
that matter. Gratitude for the rain and the dry in between. Like maybe
it will be dry and clear today? Too early to tell...

Thursday, December 08, 2016

I like this writer


Always have. Ian McEvan writes this from the perspective of an
embryo listening to his mother, father, street sounds, TV, etc.
and it is excellent so far. The baby is in the Nutshell (I'm guessing)
and his parents are a bit nutty, and no, his birth won't make
everything OK.

Wednesday, December 07, 2016

window shopping



How long have I been collecting money for the SPCA at Macy's windows?
Maybe five years? Anyway, yesterday was the BEST ever because people
were so very generous ~ $20's were the rule rather than the exception.
It was cold and I was not unhappy to leave after two hours, but it was
the shot of hope that I needed this holiday season.

Tuesday, December 06, 2016

fly-about Monday

Flora at her loom

SF is a very political city

First I did the dog feeding thing in the morning, then I took BART to
Oakland where Flora showed me her weaving looms and fed me lunch
and then I rushed home because Marsha was picking me up to go to the
Scott Wiener political gathering at the Swedish American Hall on
Market Street. Note dear Supervisor Peskin in the foreground. Sigh.
Six hundred people gathered to celebrate the inauguration of our new
California State Senator. Marsha introduced me to him and then we
high-tailed it out of there because it was too noisy and crowded. Please
admire me for changing clothes THREE times yesterday. Whooooosh.


Monday, December 05, 2016

a happy holiday play


Yesterday we ventured downtown to the SF Playhouse to see this
fluffy musical which takes place in Budapest in 1937. So, yes,
it is a little dated and maybe a tad too long, but the cast is so
enthusiastic that She Loves Me a real treat, especially the set
design which is impressive to say the least.  Oh, and a happy
ending which we all need these days...

Sunday, December 04, 2016

and more #13 birthday

RR and gifts 

the table and some of the 13 decor

Such a festive celebration in Pumpinville yesterday!

Saturday, December 03, 2016

a little history


It's special. I (we) have been coming to John's Grill on Ellis Street since
we moved here 40 or so years ago. It's "old San Francisco" with the dark
wood and white tablecloths, black and white photos of SF people and
international stars too. Friendly service and pretty good food. Patrice
from my museum days met me here last Thursday ~ I still so love going
downtown, checking out the stores and doing some serious people-
watching. We had a delightful catch-up time at John's.

Friday, December 02, 2016

we have resumed


Our writing group (Tiapos) is a little more haphazard since Jane died,
but we did meet again Wednesday night over at Suzy's in Oakland.
It was especially good seeing Chef Sarah ~ it's been too long because
she has to drive down from Napa, not easy. We are all bummed about
the idiot next Potus so bitching together helps us heal and prepare
to fight. It still seems like a bad dream, doesn't it?

Thursday, December 01, 2016

a tree falls in Frisco


This occurred on Church Street and backed-up the already unreliable
J street car. Good news? City workers arrived en masse and had it
cleaned up quickly. Sometimes when I go to the gym I park right
there and no people or cars were harmed yesterday. Funny, it was
rainy, but no wind ~ just tree roots gone bad from all the drought
years, I guess. I am not an arborist.

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

I want Jane back

I want to send her this poem.
Did she know Kim Addonizio?
I want to thank Jane for turning me into a writer.
I want Jane to push me to write again and deeper.
Complex, edgy, caring Jane.
Did she know this poem?

"What Do Women Want?"

I want a red dress. 
I want it flimsy and cheap, 
I want it too tight, I want to wear it 
until someone tears it off me. 
I want it sleeveless and backless, 
this dress, so no one has to guess 
what's underneath. I want to walk down
the street past Thrifty's and the hardware store 
with all those keys glittering in the window, 
past Mr. and Mrs. Wong selling day-old 
donuts in their café, past the Guerra brothers 
slinging pigs from the truck and onto the dolly, 
hoisting the slick snouts over their shoulders. 
I want to walk like I'm the only 
woman on earth and I can have my pick. 
I want that red dress bad.
I want it to confirm 
your worst fears about me, 
to show you how little I care about you 
or anything except what 
I want. When I find it, I'll pull that garment 
from its hanger like I'm choosing a body 
to carry me into this world, through 
the birth-cries and the love-cries too, 
and I'll wear it like bones, like skin, 
it'll be the goddamned 
dress they bury me in. 


Tuesday, November 29, 2016

getting to know George



Here are three girls from the racetrack day and I will start a new blog category
for George. Of course you know that RR is on the left, right?

Monday, November 28, 2016

off to the races!





Mr. and Mrs. Blogmaid and Claire (above) hosted a lovely day at Golden
Gate Fields for RR's birthday. I neglected to get a good photo of the four
teenage girls, but they had a great time roaming around. And I had just
the BEST time watching the people and horses and only losing $18
on #5 in the 4th race.

Sunday, November 27, 2016

calming thought

 The Power We Have 

LODRO RINZLER 

The person we elect has tremendous power. But they have zero power over 
how we show up for others and offer love. 
Zero. 


L O D R O R I N Z L E R ' S most recent book is How to Love Yourself 
and Other People): Spiritual Advice for Modern Relationships. 

Saturday, November 26, 2016

my winter walk

death

life

Yesterday I took a long and wonderful walk on Valencia Street, stopping
of course for a latte and a LindaKindle2 along the way. It was busy but
not insane and all the little stores and restaurants were doing good
Black Friday business and I was delighted NOT to be involved this
year. So many memories of retail the day after Thanksgiving and none
of them good, to tell the truth. Consumers can be greedy and very
impatient ~ trust me on this...

Friday, November 25, 2016

more than worthwhile

after doing dishes many times during the day

it was all gravy
Yes, a lot of work. No, not in vain. I had to wrestle with my negative
thoughts about "how can I be thankful this year?" all day as we busied
ourselves with prep and more prep. And then the guests arrived and
the conversations flowed and we felt nothing but gratitude.

Thursday, November 24, 2016

trying to be grateful


Yes, we are filled with gratitude for our warm and secure lives, but the
horror of this election stays with us, even on Thanksgiving. There was
a line at the Mission Pie Shoppe yesterday and NO pies on the shelves,
but I had pre-ordered online and it was easy for us. Then I took a slice
of pumpkin to Jennie in her rehab facility and of course those places can
be depressing, but we hope she will be sprung next week. The guests
arrive at 2pm and it will be a nice day, just four of us trying to stay
positive and appreciate each other and life itself. Happy Thanksgiving
to you, dear readers.

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

she's a teenager now



Happy 13th birthday to Ryan Rose ~ today is the start of another
exciting and delightful chapter in RR's life and for all of those who
love her and Mr. and Ms. Blogmaid and Ryan's sister too. Celebrate!

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

NOT BANNON

(thank you to the Fevered Brain for letting me know about this on FB)


This was shared with me and I in turn created an event to share with my 
friends that has now gone viral apparently. I have since found out who 
came up with this idea and now we are directing people to the official site. https://www.facebook.com/events/235432800204102/

**IMPORTANT: Please do not send your postcard until NOV 26th**
The original directions are below. 

1. Get a postcard from your state - any picture that represents your state.
2. In the message section, write this simple message: NOT BANNON!
3. Sign your name if you wish
4. Address it as follows:
Donald Trump
c/o The Trump Organization
725 Fifth Avenue
New York, NY 10022
5. Affix a stamp - you can use a 35 cent postcard stamp, or a normal 
letter stamp.
6. Take a picture of your postcard that you can share on social media 
using the hashtag #stopbannon . PLEASE DO NOT USE A 
REFERENCE TO ANY POLITICIAN OF ANY KIND.
7. Drop it in the mail! 

We are aiming to get these mailed between Saturday, Nov 26th and 
Monday, Nov. 28th to create a concentrated avalanche of postcards. 
But if you can't send yours until later, don't let that stop you.

For further info and answers to common questions, please the the FAQ 
posted at the top of the discussion. Thanks!




Monday, November 21, 2016

the 1950s black experience



This play is a mystery that takes place in downtown Washington, DC and
this was a time when Jews and Negros lived side-by-side there. A young
black man returns from the Korean War to discover that his friend was
murdered. Then a Jewish woman dies at his feet in the street. Somehow
the author artfully intertwines the two stories. One solid act at Z Space.

Sunday, November 20, 2016

is this polite?



I don't know the protocol here, but I am infatuated with this kitchen in
Gini and Philipp's home, so I whisked my phone out of my purse and
took a photo while no one was looking. We had a really nice dinner over
there last night and discussed our 42 years of friendship. When we
entertain there is "stuff" ALL over, but look how tidy this is. Impressed?

Saturday, November 19, 2016

news from the border


(an email from Mary in Bisbee, Arizona)

What a glorious moon!  It was so bright that my varmint cats 
stayed inside, fearing the coyotes who were roaming about in 
the ditch out front, tracking the javalinas.  At 4am the 
hummingbirds were already up (thinking it was dawn?)  
In the light of the setting moon, the neighbor’s little female 
Arctic wolf jumped her fences and was taking a leisurely stroll.   

Later, my best friend Nelson and I went down to Douglas to 
shop at the Border Walmart.  We grabbed some shopping 
carts from the parking lot, because so many of them are 
left at the entrance to Mexico.  The store was filled as usual 
with Anglo’s, Mexicans and a mixture of various other 
ethnicities.  There was no descernable tension because of 
the election.  It was the same as always.  Voices talking in 
both English and Spanish.  As we left, we joined a group 
admiring the a beautiful 2 week old Mexican baby boy.   

We then went to The Border Dennny;s so that Nelson could 
indulge in his favorite pancakes.  This place was also filled 
with a variety of the human species. All this was happening 
a stone’s throw from the big ole double fence where people 
were crossing freely back and forth with no hassle.  

The politicians up North and in Middle America are all 
yammering about the Border "crisis", but nobody comes 
down here to look around or talk with us.  There are so few 
of us right at the Border compared to the rest of the state 
and country – what does it matter what we think?  As one 
man put it,  ‘The bad part is nobody cares what we think.  
The good part is nobody cares what we think.  We pay taxes 
so that they will leave us alone.”  

The Tohono O’odham nation has announced that they will 
not allow a wall to be built on their land at the Border.  
Meanwhile, life goes on in these sparsely populated mountains.  
It’s a mixed bag down here and we are for the most part a 
pretty polite, yet sometimes, guarded, group of high desert 
dwellers.

A bumper sticker I saw recently on a pickup truck is indicative 
of the complexity of life down here:
  ARMED LIBERAL.
I wish peace under that great big ole momentous Moon shining 
blessings on us all, man and beast.
Mary

Friday, November 18, 2016

Benedict and Hamilton


Well, that's far-fetched. But I did have Eggs Benedict down at Breakers in
Pathetica with the Blogmaid who gifted me with this Hamilton CD which
I am thrilled to have. The waves were so ferocious down there that even I
figured I had better tuck my iPhone away and just rely on my memory.
Amazingly there were seven or so surfers out in the waves along with a
small group of us just standing there appreciating the majesty of it all.
As always, deep gratitude to the Blogmaid and the friendship that is ours.

Thursday, November 17, 2016

North Beach at night



Last night I went to a reception at Live Worms (?) Gallery on Grant Avenue.
The artist is a friend-of-a-friend and I am glad that I went. It was a gloriously
clear and cool night and I decided to have a latte at Trieste before I called
my Lyft driver. We have a long history with North Beach ~ I've always
wanted to live there, right in the heart of it all. Impossible, of course. It
used to be easy to drive, park, drink and eat cheap and delicious food. But
now? Well, I love taking pix with my iPhone and texting Husbando and
the Textmaid while I look and listen to all the characters in my city. Oh,
yes, I still so appreciate my city. But you already know that...

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

a step into Europe



lamb over fire ~ not for vegans


Maybe it's the lighting? One of our all-time favorite restaurants is Kokkari
down on Jackson Street. It's (yes) expensive, warm, friendly and always
busy. It is an authentic Greek restaurant and yesterday Ginger met us here
for lunch where we indulged in salad, sun chokes, fried smelt, lamb
burger, artichokes with eggplant and moussaka. Coffee and delicious
banana pudding in cake-like dessert. Lovely day!

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

a big new Tartine

L
note bags of flour on left



Tartine is a famous bakery and cafe on Guerrero Street. Recently they
opened a much larger space right in my nabe ~ 18th and Alabama.
Yesterday I met Joe here for lunch and it was everything all the critics
are raving about. Expensive? Of course. Delicious? More than. We
had sandwiches and this elegant pear and almond dessert with
our coffee. Oh, yes, the noise level? Wonderful, we could hear so
well ~ maybe the high ceilings and no loud music. Fabulous.

Monday, November 14, 2016

Dancing Jen Day




It was sooooo good to see Jen again after her wonderful trip to
England and Scotland. We had lunch at the Golden Star and then
walked a bit in Chinatown. Grieving about the election with
friends helps so much. She brought me delightful gifts ~ a pen
from each of her museum visits, a bookmark and notebook. I
treasure each one and her friendship most of all.

Sunday, November 13, 2016

escape! escape!


Billy Bob Thornton, Maria Bello, William Hurt ~ an enticing legal
drama in eight delectable episodes. We finished Goliath last night
and had a great time. Oh, Molly Parker too ~ who can forget her?
It all takes place in Santa Monica, a beach town mysteriously
devoid of traffic. But still, so nice to get away from politics. Enjoy.

Saturday, November 12, 2016

you are safe with me



Yesterday Husbando and I had lunch at Barzotto, a new pasta place on
Valencia and 24th. The two women sitting next to us were wearing safety
pins and I later learned that this started in England as a way to signify
to immigrants, gays and minorities that not every citizen there is a hater
after that dismal Brexit vote. I will wear a safety pin until Trump is
impeached.

I also sent money to ACLU because they will have to defend our constitution.
Today I will donate to Planned Parenthood. Freedom can get expensive,
but the fight has begun.

Friday, November 11, 2016

and more sorrow


And now Leonard Cohen has died. Remember when Dancing Jen and I
went to his concert in Oakland? It was more money than either of us could
afford and I've never told Husbando exactly how much it cost. But now I
would pay double that. Poet, genius, singer, deep and good soul. I will
play his CD soon, after I cry some more. RIP and thank you, Mr. Cohen.

And my gratitude for this dear Dancing Jen:

You think that their
dying is the worst
thing that could happen.
Then they stay dead
--From "Distressed Haiku" by Donald Hall