They call me: stein, msmas, mush, m.a., mary ann, mary lou, mary om, or just plain mary (and you may too)
Saturday, September 30, 2006
bits and pieces (to fill)
book is flying off the shelves! I'm going to sink into a
novel by Mark Haddon entitled A Spot of Bother. For
movies? Tonight we Flix'd Lucky #Slevin which was OK,
not fabulous, and extremely violent. But worth seeing,
I guess, just because the plot was so convoluted. So
I probably won't read this hot book, but I'm glad it's selling:
Powell's Books - State of Denial: Bush at War, Part III by Bob Woodward
Friday, September 29, 2006
the hype, the mall, the dome
Thursday, September 28, 2006
almost 3 hours of clever!
vaca last week, so we sat in the 2nd row last night. Better
to hear every single perfect word and watch some superior
acting by our old friend Geoff Hoyle (Pickle Family Circus)
and René Augesen, as well as Gregory Wallace, and more.
Travesties by Tom Stoppard is way better than I expected
and so I recommend it to everyone who loves words and
history...not to mention the colorful costumes and sly,
sweet movement of eight fabulous actors. What a treat!
Click Here: Check out "American Conservatory Theater - ACT San Francisco"
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
chocolate in between the slices
southern mission hospitality
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
my kind of challenge (maybe)
Post will pay $100 for 100 words. We know that I specialize
in brevity, but when working on this today (between a solo
walk in the Mish and a stroll on Fillmore Street with Husbando),
I discover that it's hardly any words at all! Sheeeesh. Hello.
Good-bye. No time for foreplay...
The guidelines: find a way to give insight into your life in
under 100 words.
(At least I'll have something to bring to Tiapos Thursday night.)
Monday, September 25, 2006
sam shepard's newest play
of Hell which is all about the most dangerous plutonium pit
in Colorado, Rocky Flats Plant. I didn't realize that it only
takes inhaling a few missed particles of plutonium to cause
cancer, so of course this is still a huge concern, especially
to landowners surrounding Rocky Flats. It's one of those
hush hush government messes and Shepard's one act play
manages to be scary and amusing at the same time. We
both really enjoyed the tight script and of course the acting
is superb, especially from Anne Darragh and Michael Santo.
The latter plays "the government guy" with just enough
Pres. Bush in him to be almost as frightening as the actual
plutonium. It is a short, intense play ~ go.
Click Here: Check out "Magic Theatre - San Francisco's home for New Plays"
Sunday, September 24, 2006
saving you some time...
This Wallace is the son of Mike, by the way. Smarmy...
renew orleans
great meadow at fort mason
Saturday, September 23, 2006
grass, kids, dogs
my favorite new restaurant
Friday, September 22, 2006
a snooze in the sun
yurt @ cachuma
one of life's great pleasure
Thursday, September 21, 2006
rich widows with small dogs
That's how my friend Joan described one of the parks near her
home in Montecito. I told her that it would be a great name for
a short story.
Another great women-filled day. Nothing exciting, which is just
fine with me. The 3 of us had coffee this morning at the Cafe Luna
(which used to be the French Bulldog) and that's where this new
chapter with friend from college started two years ago.
Then we 3 women with 3 dogs walked again at Padaro Beach
and today the tide was low so we could walk a lot further than
we have in the past. No stars (Dennis Miller also lives here)
and very few walkers or surfers. It was so nice just to talk and
walk and feel close ~ interesting that there is very little stuff about
the college days (daze) because we are so active in our current
lives and looking forward to the future. Lots to laugh about, too.
Tonight? Burgers at home and maybe even on the patio because
Ginger hosed off all those ashes this morning. Yes, I did a little
work too, I know that will surprise everyone.
I return home tomorrow ~ get ready for photos galore.
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
they don't sell carpets
OK, before someone else corrects me. The name of the
little beach town where I spent the day only thinking of
ME/Me/me is Carpinteria. So sorry.
self indulgence in carp
So this is how that other 1/2 lives! Today we went for a private
workout with machines and yoga and all sorts of soothing
movements...for two fabulous hours. Then a quick lunch at
the Cajun Kitchen in Carpeteria, then an hour long massage.
All this took place in this quaint little town called Carp, by
the natives. I then walked down to the beach while G. had
her massage and now I am in a liquid state, drinking an
espresso before I hit the bubble bath.
Tonight is dinner with our friend Joan ~ the 3 of us were
college buddies, as everyone knows by now. Early dinner
and early to bed. Weather? Gorgeous. Mood? Muy mellow.
Still no cafes advertising Wi Fi, so when I come home on
Friday I'll be posting photos instead of words.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
time out on tuesday
Today was almost too lazy to discuss. My friend Ginger had lots
of dental work and (honest!) I did offer to go with her, but she
said "no", so I put my feet up, looked out at the ocean and read
my old New Yorkers until lunch time. I did take the dogs out for
a walk and since I'm not currently a dog owner I forgot to bring
PLASTIC BAGS, so I had to ask another true dog walker if I
could borrow a couple of hers...and just in time.
We had an outdoor lunch at the Grill at Padaro Beach and that
was so unusual. Huge grassy area with picnic tables and a big
sand-box for the kids to play in. Dogs are allowed, but we left
our girls at home. Food was excellent too. Then back to my
lounge chair until about 4pm when we took a 4 mile beach
walk and now it's dinner time and some more relaxing. I love
having the time to really read the New Yorkers ~ I still think
it's the best magazine ever published.
Weather? Started out with fog this morning, but that was good
for the wild fire situation (there are ashes here) and then warm
and sunny this afternoon. Perfect.
Monday, September 18, 2006
yurts rock!
I'm using my friend's computer tonight because she doesn't
have Wi Fi and I couldn't piggyback down here in Summerland.
So this will be short, but I wanted to report in that I did have
a totally delightful day. Photos to follow...
Started driving the moment the sun came up and it was
smooth and beautiful. Reached Michael's in Goleta about
10am and after coffee and some chat, he drove me to Cachuma
Lake where they have yurts! These are tent like structures on
raised wooden decking right next to the lap lap of the lake.
Very peaceful and serene. Photos to follow...
Then I drove to Ginger's here in Summerland and we took a
fine beach walk with her two dogs. Kevin Costner was out on
his deck, but he didn't wave at me, so I didn't acknowledge
him. It is fabulous weather, warm still tonight with stars galore
in the clear sky. Then Ginger fixed a tasty chicken dinner for
Michael and myself and we listened to the new Bob Dylan
CD which is excellent. Photos to follow...
Sunday, September 17, 2006
leave it to king city
Wi Fi of anyplace I've been yet (except home, of course)?
I'm staying in a semi-seedy motel and just had a rather
dreadful supper at Maggie's Diner, but I'm relaxed and
delighted to be here. The drive was easy and I listened to
Len Tillum, that NY lawyer-guy on KGO. I'll be up early for
my drive to Santa Barbara ~ Ken (our Toyota) requires
tapes, not CDs, so I bought a whole bunch of those for
driving and singing tomorrow morning. I'm tired tonight,
early to bed in King City...
Saturday, September 16, 2006
dispelling the big bad mood
(which I'd never do, but it's nice to visualize it) and
today I had a relatively OK day at work. A minor issue
(we never say "problem" in the business world) with a
man who was drunk and belligerent, but then he tried
to take the up escalator down and I felt vindicated.
Anyway, somewhere along the way my attitude
switched from mean witch-bitch to warm and loving
(for me) and I'm SO much better that I had to try to
figure out why the change?
I decided it's because I started writing about my friend
Irving who died last week. Not beautiful writing like my
Tiapos friends, just "I want to remember this about him:
the bad, the unusual and the wonderful". And I think
this is helping me immensely. I have a bunch of letters
here from him and I will include some of his words in my
essay. And I will blow up a photo from two years ago, he
is wearing a red knit hat...it was only 98º out that day.
Writing eases pain, but we all know that...
Friday, September 15, 2006
two more days
Barbara. This year I am not taking the train (see July
travel notes), so I am driving and I will stay Sunday
night in glamorous King City, then head south in the
early Monday morning hours. It's a wonderful test for
me ~ being on my own, visiting with friends and
catching up on my reading. Santa Barbara is extremely
mellow compared to my life here in SF and that's just
what I need about now. I'm a bit tired of work and right
on the edge of saying something snappish to show how ultra
smart and clever I am. That's always dangerous....
Thursday, September 14, 2006
the fucking reaper
known him for almost 20 years and I miss him already.
He was 87, lived a good life ~ blah, blah. But I still won't
hear from him anymore or laugh at his jokes nor listen
to his wise counsel. He moved to Florida about 4 years
ago and I did my grieving then because I knew I wouldn't
really ever see him again. He didn't have email and his
phone skills were almost as bad as mine. When I wrote a
mutual friend, the above headline was his response. Fitting.
Then today, Ann Richards. Very sad. What a woman. It's
an emptier place on earth today.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
why I love frisco (reason #445)
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
the robins at rest for now
write for the Round Robin class. It is a great relief now because
I was running out of steam, words and patience. I get into
that, "who do I think I'm kidding?" kind of mood and pretty
much dislike everything that I type. And I mean type, not
write. Anyway, I'll be skipping the next round because I want
to take an Italian class in October.
What happens, however, is that I start missing the prompts,
the partners and the routine. Probably next week I'll be
feeling less creative, sort of wishy washy and empty. Of
course I don't push myself to write when I don't have to.
Let me remind you that my friend Jane's classes are about
the best you'll ever find if you want to write. The Round
Robin is mostly online, a marvelous invention of the Salon
Mistress, but there are many classes to chose from:
The Writing Salon :: Welcome
Monday, September 11, 2006
everything perfect, except the game...
Sunday, September 10, 2006
short shrift sunday
has given us tickets for tonight's Giants vs. Padres game
at the Jewell. It's a 5pm start so that means it must be
an ESPN game and it also means that I need to rush about
a bit right now and when I get home from work at 3pm.
These Giants might be taking us into heartbreak territory,
but who can resist? Climb on board, wear the orange and
stock-up on Kleenex®....
Saturday, September 09, 2006
not worth a thousand words
Friday, September 08, 2006
there will be no escape
I have been doing a lot of writing and complaining lately about the approaching holidays. Our mutual friend Irving always said, "Christmas has me by the throat".
I'm not there yet, but Costco did have lots of holiday shit out on Wednesday, Sept. 6th. I am not kidding. I don't know this author, but I will link him later ~ this passage describes Christmas in Sweden.
"Even the spate of useless tips from the general public has begun to dry up.
The consumer society and its harrassed citizens had other things to think of. Although it was over a month to Christmas, the advertising orgy had begun and the buying hysteria spread as ruthlessly as the Black Death along the festooned shopping streets. The epidemic swept all before it and there was no escape. It ate its way into houses and apartments, poisoning and breaking down everything and everyone in its path. Children were already howling from exhaustion and fathers of families were plunged into debt until their next vacation. The gigantic legalized confidence trick claimed victims everywhere. The hospitals already had a boom in cardiac infarctions, nervous breakdowns and burst stomach ulcers.
The police station downtown had frequent visits from the outriders of the great family festival, in the shape of Santa Clauses who were dragged blind drunk out of doorways and public urinals. At Mariatorget, two exhausted patrolmen dropped a drunken Father Christmas in the gutter when they tried to get him into a taxi. During the ensuing uproar the two policemen were hard pressed by screaming children and foul-mouthed boozers."
Thursday, September 07, 2006
green gold
We started the day at "The Monet" and breezed through since we don't do water lillies. It was a pleasure to see some of those paintings without 300 people in front of us.
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
always looking for answers...
Enjoy...it's one of the best.
Dance, Monkeys, Dance - Flash animation
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
world weary
But it's over and I have two days off to relax and catch
my breath. The good news is that the tourists have spent
all their vacation money and then some, so we can now
actually walk up and down Powell Street without being
forced off the sidewalk. I love the ones who walk 4 in a
row, especially if they are the hefty types from Germany
or the Midwest. The sun is shining and Husbando plans
to BBQ hamburgers and I'm going to Santa Barbara in
a couple of weeks so everything is hunky dory. Dorry?
Monday, September 04, 2006
brief reviews from a tired worker blogger
go for what seems like a long time without getting lost
in a book. I finished The Poe Shadow (okay, not great)
and Water for Elephants (excellent!) and today I brought
home this novel that has had so many magnificent reviews.
Powell's Books - Suite Francaise: A Novel by Irene Nemirovsky
This is the work by the woman who died in Auschwitz ~ 64
years later her daughters published this "singularly piercing
evocation...of life and death in occupied France."
Sunday, September 03, 2006
an american tragedy (not over)
feel wiped out and wretched. Of course I forgot that the
Insurance companies would be spending all their energy
trying to figure out how NOT to pay all those claims.
If our government doesn't finish you off, big business
will ~ except for the damn human spirit and the truly
inspirational music. I loved that part. I've been having
nightmares since we started watching this, but I live
in paradise and a few bad dreams are nothing. Oh,
yes, now the speculators and developers have arrived
and gentrification has begun in the 9th Ward. Very sad.
HBO: When the Levees Broke: A Requiem in Four Acts
Saturday, September 02, 2006
O silent majority
Speak Out
And a vast paranoia sweeps across the land
And America turns the attack on its Twin Towers
Into the beginning of the Third World War
The war with the Third World
And the terrorists in Washington
Are drafting all the young men
And no one speaks
And they are rousting out
All the ones with turbans
And they are flushing out
All the strange immigrants
And they are shipping all the young men
To the killing fields again
And no one speaks
And when they come to round up
All the great writers and poets and painters
The National Endowment of the Arts of Complacency
Will not speak
While all the young men
Will be killing all the young men
In the killing fields again
So now is the time for you to speak
All you lovers of liberty
All you lovers of the pursuit of happiness
All you lovers and sleepers
Deep in your private dreams
Now is the time for you to speak
O silent majority
Before they come for you
-- Lawrence Ferlinghetti
Poets Against War
This poem is hanging in my messy office here at home.
I snipped it from the Chronny when the war first began
and here we are, STILL in Iraq. What have I done to stop
this insanity? Nothing. Maybe a few pathetic words in
the blog, but that's about it. Shame on me.
Friday, September 01, 2006
thank you molly ivins!
AUSTIN -- I know it's bad form to brag, but I am now a "graduate" of Texas A&M University, and you can't stop Aggie pride. I became a diplomee of the great institution in College Station after successfully completing the three-day short course in beef cattle this summer. I specialized in forage management and graduated Quel fromage!, meaning avec distinction.
The most amazing part of cow college was meeting the cow whisperer.
Think of everything you know about moving cattle from one place to another -- for shots, round-up or loading into trucks for market, just physically moving a lot of cattle. GEE, GIT ON, GO DOGIE, whistle, whip crack, move 'em out, chase 'em down. Turns out that all these years we've been doing it wrong.
What happens when you scare a cow by making a lot of noise and chasing it down and forcing it to move where it doesn't want to go is that the cow responds by relieving itself. And since a cow has several stomachs, it can unload up to 20 percent of its total weight at one go -- the last thing you want just before you take it to market to sell.
So the latest thing in cattle handling is cow whispering. (I'm not making this up -- this is straight from A&M.) Either on foot or horseback, you just kind of sidle around your herd without upsetting them, talk to them gently and suggest they might like to go that way for a while, and then perhaps a tour along the pen line, and then perhaps some consideration of the gate and another little tour of the pen line.
But all of this is done without loud noise, sudden movements or eruptions of testosterone. It's such a revolutionary development of an American macho tradition that it's a little like watching NFL teams come onto the field in tutus. But it also works a lot better on the cows.
I bring this up because I recently attended a women's peace movement meeting, sponsored by the Code Pink group founded by Medea Benjamin, Jodie Evans and Diane Wilson. The female peacemakers also included Cindy Sheehan, writer Anne Lamott and Col. Ann Wright, who served 29 years in the Army and more than 15 years in the Foreign Service before resigning in protest over President Bush's drive to war in Iraq.
I must say, they were a lot more emphatic than the cow whisperer. In fact, as I left, they were saddling up to ride down to Bush at his ranch with a people's posse peace warrant. Lots of whooping about it.
Female peace activists, as a rule, have totally solved the gnarly old dilemma: What do you do about hating the haters? If you're a female peace activist, this is Step 101 -- you spill love and calm and reassurance and, well, peace all over them.
For those of us who have not mastered this advanced technique, a Revolution in Favor of Kindness and Libraries seems like a nice idea.
Lamott, one of the funniest people in America, has developed a scenario for a Revolution With Good Manners, in which we are all extremely Nice to one another. Good manners never hurt anything. "Our Revolution decrees that we will fight tooth and nail for these things, politely."
War is about rounding up people with Shock and Awe and really loud noises, and about thinking you can herd them by hurting and killing them. Politics is what you do if you're not so stupid that you walk into an unnecessary and unprovoked war.
I'm founding Cow Whisperers Against the War.